Book of D: A Three-Week Break: Visiting the Texas Student Counseling Intern Codes

Wow. This semester sure did go by quickly. The Spring 2022 semester technically ends tomorrow, Friday, May 6, 2022. I have already informed my respective clients that I will be on a 3-week hiatus and will not be able to counsel them until the Summer 2022 semester begins on May 31, 2022. 

[§681.52. LPC Interns] Per Texas Student Counseling Intern Codes: Student interns cannot earn hours outside of the official semester begin and enddates. By law, I also have to give my clients an alternative to counseling services, which means that if any clients choose to see another counselor in my absence, they have the right to do so. The clients have the right to be seen temporarily until I return. The clients also have the right to wait for my return. 

Texas Administrative Code

TITLE 22	EXAMINING BOARDS
PART 30	TEXAS STATE BOARD OF EXAMINERS OF PROFESSIONAL COUNSELORS

Chapters

CHAPTER 681

PROFESSIONAL COUNSELORS

So far, all but one of my clients have opted to just wait for me and take a 3-week break themselves. The one client who did not want to wait has requested a temp counselor during my absence, but the client wants to return to counsel with me as soon as the Summer 2022 semester starts.

I am kind of perplexed about the end of the semester. For one, I am glad it is coming to an end because I am so tired. Not only am I working fulltime at the university, but I am also interning while enrolled as a student on a fulltime basis. I really need this break. The opposite of this is that I am going to miss seeing my clients. I have worked hard, actually both my clients and myself have worked hard to establish a wonderful therapeutic relationship. The process of establishing therapeutic relationships is arduous and lengthy; some take longer, some happen faster. The therapeutic relationship must be maintained continuously throughout the duration of the determined-amount of counseling sessions. All that said, I am going to miss my clients because I have learned so much about them, and each one is extremely special in his/her own way.Per Texas Student Counseling Intern Codes: Student interns cannot earn hours outside of the official semester begin and enddates.

By law, I also have to give my clients an alternative to counseling services, which means that if any clients choose to see another counselor in my absence, they have the right to do so. The clients have the right to be seen temporarily until I return. The clients also have the right to wait for my return. So far, all but one of my clients have opted to just wait for me and take a 3-week break themselves. The one client who did not want to wait has requested a temp counselor during my absence, but the client wants to return to counsel with me as soon as the Summer 2022 semester starts.

Book of Pain: The Attorney's Rep Attempted Ripping a New One

If I am more apprehensive about hiring an attorney, I blame the lady from the attorney's office. She is awful. She needs how to be versed in treating potential customers and how to avoid scaring them away. Her demeanor alone is triggering. Her verbal maltreatment of me made me afraid and it made me indignant. I hated talking to her. She was so condescending and spoke to me like I was a three-year-old who had little experience in life. She said there is no reason not to move forward with an attorney because time is running out for me to hire one. She added that everyone is busy and that everyone has a life and things they have to do, and I need to decide what I need to do. G-d I hated how she berated me. Like I don't have enough to worry about. Like I don't have trust issues with people already. She didn't give me time to tell my side of the story. Plus, she called me by a different first name and said that she had read what the Midland Police Dept had written on their report, and I told her that the MPD didn't even show up, so there was no police report. They didn't show up because no one was seriously mamed or killed and the vehicles were able to be driven. I had to correct her about my first name two times. I don't like to be pressured into doing something I am not ready to do. I have a bad feeling about this mostly because I haven't had the opportunity to speak to the actual attorney yet. This lady was berating me while she her kids were in the background yelling as if they were playing. It was unprofessional for her to call me with all that background noise happending and her condescending to me. Her attitude is unethical. She needs to be trained in the realm of mental health because he manner of speaking to potential clients is not only triggering, but I can image how many clients have been lost because they didn't want to communicate with her. I would never talk down to others, especially if they were prospective clients. Shame on her. Shame on the attorney if they don't address. My pain is an 8. I haven't slept much at night. I have bad insomnia.

Book of D: Exactly What is Closure

So, here I am once again writing about The Real World Homecoming: New Orleans.

The episode in question pertains to Danny Roberts’ relationship with ex-boyfriend Paul Dill. They dated during The Real World: New Orleans season, which aired in 2000 and was MTV’s ninth installment of the docuseries. During the NOLA Homecoming episode #3, Danny talks about how he is burdened with a soul. He talks about his rough breakup with Military Paul. Danny left the toxic relationship and adds that he stayed with Paul way longer than he should have. Danny says he and Paul just went their separate ways after their split, and although Paul has reached out numerous times, Danny hasn’t spoken to him since. Danny reveals to his castmate, “Long story short, that motherf*cker started dating our mutual best friend behind my back. We have literally not spoken or seen each other since 2006.” Danny’s castmate convinces Danny he needs closure, so Danny arranges to meet Paul to have the overdue 16-year convo. It was a good episode (despite Julie being ignorant & entitled; a whole other story).😠

😶My thoughts: I wish I, too, could have that kind of closure with my ex. I wonder what that would look like. How would that conversation even begin? How would it end? I am not who I used to be during our time together — all those years ago. I have changed so much these last three decades, with the biggest change having occurred since my wonderful Mom passed away in 2011. I wonder if the things my ex and I fought over would still interfere in our trying to find common ground. I wonder if the things we agreed upon would still give way for commutuality. I wonder if she would blame me for the damaging things I did to her. I wonder if she could listen to my list of hurtful things that she did to me. I would really like to know why she cut me out of her life so suddenly. What does she think I did to garner such castigation? I have changed, and I am sure she has changed, too. It would be nice to meet for a nice dinner and delectable drinks and to reminisce about the good times — because there were so many of them. 💜 The feelings I had for that person still blister from time-to-time. Don't get me wrong, I love my life now, but I guess I will always wonder. Life is just one big ole f*cking asterisk. I wish I could get that damn closure that everyone talks about. Maybe things are meant to be a certain way, and we need to leave some stones unturned.

Book of Pain: Attorney Communicates But What Should I Do

 A local attorney returned my call. Actually, they texted me around 5:53 pm. I was in a counseling session with a client at On the Couch. I will call the attorney as soon as I finish doing some things for the end of Spring 2022 semester, internship I, and UTPB work-related things. I did return their text today at 7:23 pm. 

My back pain today is at a 7. I don't think the pain has been lesser than a 7 since the car accident. My mental fatigue has been through the roof. I don't know what to do. Should I let my insurance pay (that is not right since it was not my fault). Should I let the other driver's insurance pay (will they cover things upfront or leave me having to pay for things like last week when I went to the NP). I want to do the right thing. I don't like people who sue for nothing or to just get a big paycheck. I don't want to be viewed as money-hungry because I am not. I like helping others and doing things for others. I am not an altruist; I believe that the second someone calls him/herself an altruist, he/she fails at it. In all honesty, though, I am tired of people taking advantage of me. I am especially tired of those people who drive recklessly and are to blame for needless car wrecks and damages. Deep down, I know I need to do what is best for me and Sara. I am not getting younger, and my grad school bills are pilling up. I can't afford to be left paying for this accident out of my own pocket. One, it's not fair. Two, it's not affordable. I am starting to get paranoid and my sleep at night is for shit.

Book of D: Facilitating BASICS & CASICS (Brief Alcohol/Cannabis Screening and Intervention for College Students)

BASICS & CASICS: they're a mouthful, right? I have been facilitating the programs at UT Permian Basin for over three years. During my tenure at UTPB, I have also facilitated over the Center for Students in Recovery (partnered with and been a proud member of the Association of Recovery in Higher Education (ARHE)), the End Tobacco Use (ETU)/Peers Against Tobacco (PAT) Initiative, and Bystander Intervention. BASICS and CASICS are somewhat different programs, but they predicate the same kind of harm reduction outcomes and goals; both are used according to the kind of mandate and/or ajudication the respective student is given.

BASICS (Brief Alcohol Screening and Intervention for College Students) and CASICS (Cannabis Screening and Intervention for College Students) are evidence-based, two-session harm and reduction programs that strive to help students succeed personally and academically. We want to make sure that students have a terrific experience at the University of Texas and the other 13 academic and health institutions (UT System affiliates). 

Our BASICS program is student-centric and focuses on assisting students with making informed choices about alcohol to ensure they have personal and academic success. The program is an opportunity for students to examine their drinking behavior in a non-judgmental and non-confrontational environment. We use the term harm reduction to differentiate this program from abstinence-only programs that may neglect reasons why an individual chooses to drink. Hence, the focus of the harm reduction approach is to reduce negative consequences rather than merely telling individuals to avoid drinking altogether. The student is encouraged to take the lead on developing strategies to reduce alcohol-related consequences. Both sessions are designed to last approximately 50 minutes each to allow facilitators time to prepare for their next scheduled session. 

Facilitators are trained in the following research-based techniques: MI Spirit, MI Strategies (OARS), and Change Talk. Confidentiality is reviewed with the students as well. 

BASICS was originally developed at the University of Washington in order to reduce alcohol consumption and related problems for college students. Since its inception, BASICS has been adopted at universities throughout the country and has shown consistent results: decreases in the mean number of drinks when partying, reduction in the peak number of drinks per occasion, lower typical and peak BAC, and fewer negative consequences. BASICS has peer-reviewed evidence to support its efficacy in the college population. 

 How the Program Works

Session 1 is in a small group (up to 5 members) as participants discuss their personal beliefs about alcohol as well as information about alcohol and its effects. They will also discuss both the positive aspects (e.g., hopes) they expect to get out of drinking and the negative aspects (e.g., regrets) that they feel comfortable sharing. Other important topics in this session include the definition of a standard drink, signs of drunkenness, and the Amnesty for Alcohol Emergencies Policy. At the end of session 1, students complete a brief online survey that asks questions about drinking behaviors, perceptions of alcohol use on campus and strategies they currently use to reduce risk of alcohol-related harm and any negative effects of their alcohol use. Participants will also receive a drink tracker card to record the number of drinks over a two-week period and will schedule their individual session two weeks after session 1. Overall, the purpose of session 1 is to introduce the student to the program, provide information, and build rapport with the student(s). 

Session 2 is a one-on-one in which the student receives a printed copy of the feedback report and goes over this report together with the facilitator. Students learn how their drinking compares with other students on campus and collaborate with the facilitator to examine the student’s current relationship with alcohol and the role that the student would like alcohol to play in his or her future. This can include discussing protective strategies that the student feels would be useful for reducing alcohol-related consequences. Session 2 gives the student an opportunity to examine drinking behavior and identify harm reduction strategies.

Book of D: We Need to Have that Other Talk: Mental Health

It's vital to keep talking about it. As a country, we've gotten better but it's nowhere at the level that it should be. More money needs to be put into it. For example, the insurance industry needs better regulations. Most counselors don't accept health insurance because the insurance industry makes it difficult for them to file. That's one way to battle the rise of mental health. Another way is to offer more free mental health opportunities and resources. Currently, there aren't enough. Most counselors offer pro bono sessions, but they cannot afford to offer more. There are currently about 100,000 counselors in this country, but we need more. The government should make counseling programs cheaper. The cost for a mental health graduate program these days is about $75,000 to $100,000. We students don't get much financial aid. We should get as much as nurses or other medical students get. We have to undergo an arduous program that consists of tons of hours of training and student counseling, and even when we graduate with 65 required credit hours including 100 hrs of practicum and 600 hrs of internship, we still have to do 3000 more hours after graduation before we get a license,  LPC. The government should help make mental health counseling grad programs more affordable because right now, it's not and that's why less and less people are going into the mental health practice. It's not a cheap field to get into, but I wouldn't change a thing because helping others is helping myself. 

Book of D: If You're Going to San Francisco, Don't Expect a Real World Homecoming

 There's not much to say about why the creators of The Real World series chose not to have a Homecoming installment for the legendary San Fran cast. I have not read the official reason(s), but I can only guess. All I have read is that instead of creating a Homecoming: San Francisco, the creators are skipping ahead to season nine, and the year 2000. My guess for skipping the TRW Homecoming: SF is that perhaps the castmates prefer not to rehash Pedro's death or cast his beautiful life in a negative light. Sadly, Pedro passed away on November 11, 1994, one day after the final episode aired.

Afterall, we have seen TRW Homecoming: NY /LA/NO rehash negative convos and incidents, which painted some of the characters in a bad light. I don't think TRW:SF would paint Pedro in a negative manner, but no one wants to see reruns of Pedro getting belittled and irritated again by that creep Puck. Or maybe this particular cast just doesn't have time to devote to a Homecoming reunion. For instance, Pam is a doctor now in San Fran devoted to caring for others and teaching (professor of medicine) while being married to Judd. Judd is an award-winning cartoonist for DC Comics. Pam and Judd have been married for 20 years and have two children. I'm not sure what the others are doing these days. I don't care what Puck-a-roo is doing. Pam and Judd were my faves, along with Pedro. I mostly stayed up-to-date about the whereabouts of my favorite living cast members and posthumous celebrations for Pedro. Speaking of, there was a movie made about Pedro, aptly named Pedro, which was the "Official Selection" at the 2009 Toronto Film Festival.

San Francisco Cast: Pedro Zamora, Pam Ling, Judd Winick, Rachel Campos, Mohammed Bilal, Cory Murphy, Joanna Rhodes, and Puck Rainey.

Book of D: Who Dat Talkin 'Bout The Real World N'awlins Homecoming

The Real World: New Orleans is the ninth season of MTV's reality television series. In this TRW: Homecoming series, we once again had a battle of the races: Melissa Beck (née Howard) and Julie Stoffer; they were actually besties while the season was being filmed, but somewhere along the way — after the season was aired—Julie went rogue against castmates Melissa and Danny (Roberts). Melissa and Danny alleged that Julie stole their opportunities on the lucrative college speaker circuit, which they were all embarked on after the season ended. Vox magazine says that Melissa’s and Danny’s allegations against Julie claim that Julie would offer to speak at the colleges for a smaller fee than her castmates, and the colleges — looking to save money — would book Julie instead.

Page Six magazine says that Danny is still processing the pain of an alleged letter written by Julie that painted him as a “dangerous homosexual.” Danny told Vox that Julie’s letter against him was not only damaging, but it undermined his trust in people in general. Danny went on to say, “To be chosen to do that by an international organization, back then, as a gay man was a big deal. It was super hurtful then to find out that somebody I trusted was actually undermining me, especially in that time.”

During the TRW Homecoming: New Orleans premiere episode, Melissa and Danny ask Julie to admit to the truth about her badmouthing them. Julie attempts to say that she’s sorry, but Melissa and Danny say it is too soon and that it will take time for them to figure this out, especially because Julie does not appear genuine in her apology and keeps throwing around the phrase, "I apologize if it happened." Wow! Anyway, Melissa stresses to Julie to acknowledge that Julie’s actions were done against marginalized people: a gay person and a person of color. Melissa further adds to Julie that what was f**ked up about it is that it took opportunities away from herself and Danny while also attacking their character. David “Tokyo” Broom tells Julie later in the episode that she needs to take accountability for what happened regardless if she or someone from her team wrote the letter. Julie tells Tokyo he is so right and that the buck stops with her (Julie). Julie realizes that she has to do better with apologizing to Melissa and Danny. Tokyo urges Julie to take responsibility for everything. Later in the episode, Julie is shown repeating (almost verbatim) Tokyo’s words to Danny about taking accountability and responsibility for everything. But is it sincere or is Julie just reciting things to make things less awkward for herself at the New Orleans’ house? Who dat talking ‘bout marginalized people: Julie.

New Orleans Cast: Jamie Murray, Matt Smith, Melissa Howard, Kelley Limp, Danny Roberts, David Broom, and Julie Stoffer.

Book of D: Can We Really Go Home Again? The Real World, New York Can—and Did

Okay, I'm doing this, I am going to write about the MTV series of my generation that started a craze within the reality tv genre. The 1992 inaugural season of The Real World, New York, which will forever be my favorite season, not only made reality tv popular, but it defined a generation. According to historians and social science pundits, The Real World “reimagined the long-form documentary format for television.” There are many reasons why I fell in love with the docuseries. One reason was that during the early 90s, we had not seen anything like it before. It was compelling and organic. At least I think it was. It was supposedly “unscripted,” but we will never really know if it was or not. We were reality-tv virgins, per se, so it did not matter if it was scripted or not. The characters were all interesting nonetheless; each person different with so much to contribute, whether we viewers liked them or not. Regardless of what each person brought to the reality series or what their personalities were, we viewers were enthralled.

So, in watching TRW Homecoming series, I have been taken back into time sans an Einstein-Rosen Bridge or time machine. I have been allowed to remember what I was doing during the times the respective season(s) of TRW aired. I have also been forced to ponder that back in the 90s, my own world was hindered with attributes of prejudice and malformed worldviews. There was no synesthesia, nothing was black or white; everything was muddled. Those were the times: everything and everyone was somewhat corrupted, and seldom did anyone take time to be an upstander, including yours truly. I like to think of myself as an upstander these days. I facilitate bystander intervention at the local university for goodness’ sake, and I am an LPC-I trained to be self-aware of biases, but am I truly “woke”? Hardly. I have a lot of growing and learning to do. I have revisited the Real World, New York scenes that were extremely controversial in 1992 and should still be provocative in 2022. 

Most of the scenes included Kevin Powell, Becky Blasband, and Julie Gentry. I won’t include their bios; Google them if you aren’t familiar with them. I remember being scared when Becky and Julie were in arguments with Kevin; mostly, I was scared of Kevin, and I wanted the castmates to vote to kick him out of the house. Not being “woke” to racism back then, I just viewed Kevin, apparently like most of racist America did, too, as an “angry black man.” Looking at episodes now, I see from where Kevin was coming, and how he was fighting for equality and equity in a world that was demeaning toward and killing black people. Moreover, I see how privileged Becky and Julie were back then (and still are to this day) as white females; plus, both women came from well-off families, so add that to their entitled lives. My views were marred back then because I was not educated in the area of racism and bigotry. It is now 2022, and as a female, person-of-color (P.O.C.) in the twenty-first century, I am versed in how racism is tearing our country apart at the very fabric of the freedoms it was originally created to provide (freedoms but for whom?). I’d like to think that my fear of angry men like Kevin was because of the fear my ex-husband embedded in me by his verbal, physical, and emotional abuse, but that would be a much-too-easy way out for my ignorant behavior back then. I will forever regret looking at Kevin in such a terrible manner in the 90s. I have been a victim of racism, classism, sexism, and heterosexism for the last three decades. I am sure I have victimized others along the way via some sort of "ism." For all the crap I put out into this often vulgar and pungent world, I am remorseful, and I will continue learning and teaching about biases, prejudices, and inequalities; finally able to accept culpability for my own shortcomings. Everyone should have a homecoming, if anything, to examine their own "wokeness."

New York Cast: Norman Korpi, Julie Gentry, Becky Blasband, Kevin Powell, Andre Comeau, Heather Gardner and Eric Nies.